The Locked Door

“Tomorrow is a mystery!”

You may think, Oh Noooooooooo,  another one of those worn out clichés.

Hold it,  don’t kick, sorry I meant click yourself out of my blog. Just stop to think about it, this is not a cliché.  It should become a universal truth to guide us through the choices we make in our lives.

Usually we like open doors, we see what’s beyond them and we have no troubles passing through.

On the other hand,  when we have to deal with  a locked door we  become aggravated if we don’t have a key. That’s how our future is, it’s locked and the worse part is that you don’t have the key to unlock it until it becomes your present.

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Even if tomorrow is a mystery, that doesn’t stop us from making plans to do this or do that.  Never stopping to consider that we may not even be alive or well enough to carry out our plans.

One of my life lessons is precisely that. I made the mistake of thinking that I had my life planned (my husband and me thought that just by saying it out loud are plans were going to fall through)   and all of a sudden when the door that contained my future became unlocked – – -BAM-  – – it didn’t turn out as I planned.

We faced my significant other’s illness at the young age of 25, we thought like so many young people that we were invincible. My husband was diagnosed with end stage liver disease and would need a liver transplant to continue living.

I would have liked to scream out of frustration, but I did what I always do, move on.

I’ve heard often, “You need to plan your future now, the time is right.”, others may say “You never know what can happen tomorrow.” meaning don’t do anything about IT.

However, where can we find the perfect balance?

I have come to learn that we can find the perfect balance today, but don’t forget to bring your yesterday into the picture.  All our experiences make us what we are.

So, YES yesterday is important, but today is the time to make a difference in your tomorrow.

Live your today wisely,  responsibly,  go a bit crazy once in a while, because if you don’t you’re just a living corpse, and most of all treasure all that is important to your heart (this means take care of your spirituality).

Don’t take me wrong, material things are also important.  Who ever said that material things weren’t is lying and probably just wants to rip you off.

We need material things to survive and give us comfort as well, just don’t get to greedy and keep close to your heart those who don’t have as much as we do.

Last, but not least I want to mention a  blog written by Feminista Jones, I recently read, where she talks about the insights her mom gave her on life and relationships.

One of the most interesting parts were these words,  “Don’t look into the future because it’s already written…we just have to play it out as it comes.”   

A very wise woman if you ask me, let’s take her little piece of advice and our locked door isn’t going to aggravate us as much anymore.  

Life is what it is, you just have to figure out how you play along with it.

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The Burden of Burned Hands

How do you glue a vase that has broken in a thousand pieces? Is it possible?

I would say no, to both questions, but you can give it a try none the less.

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That’s how our faith in life and in others look like when our experiences shatter it profoundly and irreversibly. I’ve always known along the way that you shouldn’t put your hands over fire for anyone or anything because the recovery is slow and painful.

At the same time, we can’t become judges of other people’s actions, because if we do we’re not much better than they are.  To tell you the truth I don’t think nobody is better or above anyone.  We all share the same standard of humanity.

Who can say that they have never done something they will always regret?

After reflecting and taking a hard look from inside out, I’ve come to terms with who I am today at least spirituality speaking.  When I began blogging at the beginning of the year over at blogger, it was precisely because of how distant I’ve had become with a life long commitment to church and God  (I’m still referring to the big Guy with a capital letter).

I’m no longer that same devote woman, nevertheless, I’ve become more tuned than ever with my spirituality and the people and world (nature with all its components) that surround me.  I appreciate my family (my husband, children, parents and brother) more than ever and are grateful for having them in my life.

No longer do I want to hold on to my daughter or sons, because that’s not how it’s suppose to work.  They need to move on and I need to let them go wherever they want to.

People are who they are, and it’s not up to me or anyone else to pass judgement over them.

I’m not saying that our experiences leave us dented and scarred, but we have to look at them  as part of who be become. In other words, they become a blessing for us because they make us more stronger and tougher.  It’s like when gold is tested through fire.  It’s purity surfaces and that’s how it exactly it works for us as well.

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I could revert to draft my ramble about how I think that many of us are frauds because I am also one, but I won’t.  I’ll leave it just where it is.  It will be my reminder on how I can’t let the actions taken by others define who I am or what I believe in.

I’m not a fraud and I’m will certainly not let others make me feel one!

Let each one of us carry our own mistakes and errors of judgment because at the end of the day everyone has to live with their own remorse.  It’s enough with the ones I carry without adding anything more to it.

Probably next Sunday I’ll be sitting in the pew I’ve been using for the past 26+ years or more.  Listening and going along  with whatever is said and done, but deep inside every word or action will be questioned and filtered through eyes wide open.  No longer will my faith be veiled through innocence and candor.

Nevertheless, I’ll just stay put because I’m more than sure some total stranger like, Lisa Fenn will restore my faith in the good of people.  She  helped two inner city Cleveland boys accomplish their dreams and stayed with them when nobody expected her to. She gave them uncommitted  pure love,  forming a bond so strong that is would  heal their troubled lives and bring joy and peace to her along the way.  She got nothing out of it.  You can read their amazing story, clicking on this link,

Life is only but a minute in eternity, what are you willing to do with your minute?