The Bliss of Being Just You

One of my favorite categories to blog about is happiness.

I’ve never met anyone who doesn’t want to feel  happy or at least content with what they have in their lives.

Nevertheless, happiness is an elusive thing.  You never know when or where it can show up.

Happiness has a few tweaks about it, probably the most important of them all is that the only person who can give you happiness is yourself.

This should say “Have a Great Life” instead. You are the only person who can really decide this.

To blog about happiness I don’t have to become an expert on the subject (thank God), but can pull up from my life experiences.

First, and far most you need to know what does “happy” mean for you.  For instance, and basically to answer my question, happy means feeling right.  Not knowing, but feeling, why???? Happiness isn’t related with knowledge, you don’t know you’re happy, you have to feel it.

Happy is smiling, not fretting during at least a second in time, feeling content, wanting to embrace someone or yourself, laughing, shouting in joy, bursting, peaceful with all and everything around you or just tuning yourself with yourself being just you in sheer bliss.

The obliged question, why is it so hard to find “happy”?

In our “generic” world nobody has time to think about things and give ourselves the inner eye look.  That’s the kind of look that hides nothing because I know deep inside that it’s hard to hide my feeling from myself.  I may trick someone and hide what I don’t want to showcase, but I can’t hide away from myself.

In a world known for its dishonesty, it’s become relatively easy to become dishonest with one self.  Today is a great day to stop all that nonsense and give ourselves the inner eye look.

What is wrong with you
This probably should say, what is wrong with me too????

It’s a great start for sure!

People don’t blog much about happiness or the pursuit of it by the way, they prefer darker topics.  Many like to hear about all that is wrong in our world (not necessarily how to fix it though) and so many soul-searching methods that we can find along the trail of life. It’s much easier going down the side lines.

Even though I’m writing about it today, I can’t give you the magic formula to get it, just can’t.  This is a YOU kind of thing!

Don’t give me the cynic “not all days are happy ones”, life sucks most of the time.  Nevertheless, even in our darkest hours we can make it our mission to find something in our lives that is good.

Today my happy is just being able to get out of my bed, make great use of my legs (they were able to carry me where I needed to go) and taking a deep breath and my lungs just felt right. You can say,

-Is this woman nuts?  What does any of that do with happiness?

Well, I’ll let you on a little “secret”, people who suffer from Myasthenia Gravis can’t take any of my “happy” today for granted.  Every other day we may not make it out of bed and our lungs shut down.  So you see, today I have been utterly HAPPY!

I don’t know what my happy will be tomorrow, but at least today was all good. Even though I found a few bumps along the way.

So you see, my dear “amigos” it’s as easy as finding your own “happy” today and don’t worry too much about tomorrow because we really don’t know if we’ll be around anyway.  Just concentrate on today and all will be well and if it’s not then, “damn it” give it your best try!


Shit Happens

“Most people are other people.  Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions. Their lives a mimicry.  Their passions a quotation.”  Oscar Wilde

Crossing the line between knowing ourselves well and not knowing at all is a bit scary.  Nobody can say they know themselves one hundred percent.  You can say,  I know who I am, but you don’t.  Why?

Basically because life is dynamic, it’s always changing and bringing you with it along the way.   Being the worst part that nobody really knows for sure what the future will look like and like Forest Gump said, “shit happens”.

Our lives are full of these unwanted or wanted events that make us evolve, even if we don’t want to.  You can think for a moment that life is good and all of a sudden tragedy strikes and you no longer think life is that good.

You may have a job and all your financial issues in order,  and suddenly lose your job and there goes all your financial security down the drain.

You may have love in your life and be happy, and suddenly no longer love is around and there goes your emotional security.

Sorry if I’m sounding more and more pessimistic (really????) because no matter our own circumstances life is good is you concentrate on the stuff that really matter.

A great place to begin with would be finding pleasure in the small things.

A quiet afternoon in Ponce, Puerto Rico.
A quiet afternoon in Ponce, Puerto Rico.

Nevertheless, it’s not that simple!  Life events make us review who we are.  Some face these events and basically remain unchanged, others (like me), need to go back and sometimes waaaaay back and asses who we’ve become.

Sometimes I look at the lives of a few around me and think, “Gee, have I had bad luck or what?”

Only a couple of years into my marriage and I had to readjust and configure a new path because of my husband’s illness.  All our plans just washed away, we couldn’t even save a penny for years, nevertheless buy a new car, or invest some of our money in our house.  Every thing was a struggle for a while.

Yet, not all was bad because we learned to appreciate the small pleasures in life. It’s so easy to let life pass you without enjoying it on your own terms.

Now a days the media even tells us how we are supposed to enjoy life.

Let’s look at the concept of vacations for a moment, television commercials tell us how before hand how our vacations should look like and that’s what we aim at when we are able to take them.  But, not necessarily everyone can afford an expensive holiday, so what can we do?

Look around and make the best of whatever we have at hand because our clocks never stop ticking.

Simply enjoy whatever opportunity we have.

If we’re forced to review who we are over and over, FINE.  It’s probably because some of us come into this world with just a peck of bad luck or misfortune.  Never and I say never think you’re less because you don’t have this or that.

Because at the end of our journey through out life  we can take nothing.

We should never let events (we can’t control) take over of who we are.

Our experiences and what we believe in make us who we are.

So my dear friends lets give ourselves a hard look inside and out and I hope you see good in your life even when “Shit happens.” because I sure do in mine and certainly will not allow myself to live through the eyes of others.