Dear readers, understanding holds a profound dichotomy. We say, “I undersand.” as we nod our heads, but quickly after we insert “but” into our affirmation of our so called understanding.
I hold a struggle with understanding each day.
I hold a struggle with getting into the shoes of those who get on my nerves once in a while. Not only of those who I know, but also those I see and listen to on the news or social media. That once in a while is for the moments where my tolerance goes down to ground zero and I just want to shout at someone for any reason.
Understanding is the hard part of believing that we can experience meaningful relationships with our family members, friends or community in a broader sense.
It’s the hard part because it’s the one where we have to co-exist. To be with, in each aspect of the other we seek to comprehend during times where there is sorrow, anxiety or joy. It’s easy to be with a happy human being where everything is dandy. On the other hand, picking someone up and being with him or her during troubled times is difficult because we don’t want to have to deal with anything out of our comfort zones.
It’s part of our nature to look away or hide our pain. Many would agree with me when I write, “Out of sight, out of mind.”. Since I began experiencing my illness, the hurried questions of, “How are you?”, have bothered me because many our issued as a quick courtesy, out of politeness, but very few are asked to deeply listen of my realities facing the ups and downs of how living with Myasthenia really is.
Practicing understanding should be a habit blazed in our hearts.
When we are able to get out of our own heads it’s easier to listen and comprehend another perspective of things. Seeing deeply into another person be it, foe or friend, has a soothing effect after I get over all the internal battles I have already fought within myself because I don’t want to be you, I want to be me. Doing nothing and feeling nothing for the other party.
Understanding can only grow inside us if we nurture it with an empty mind and heart. Shutting down all the loud conversations that contain poor communication can become a stepping stone in the path of constructing life long relationships with one another.
Poor communication has the power to create a funnel as mighty as any tornado that destroys relationships and interbeing along it’s deadly path.
When we don’t break the cycles, we live perpetually in the suffering that has been passed on to us by our parents and grandparents. I tend to worry about my children, about their interbeing with each other. Mainly because there will be a time when I’ve passed and they no longer have me acting as their denominator in the equation that are growing family is becoming. I’ve been a poor example in the latter, and I know now that sooner than later the consequences of this will manifest as they become older siblings.
Finally, at the end of the day it comes back to taking our first steps in understanding deeply and that my dear friends comes with something as simple , or not, as to learn how to listen.
Thanks for stopping by , and remember to always follow the golden rule of life, treat and talk to yourself with kindness and compassion, and then you will be able to treat and talk to others the same way.
See you around the corner. Hasta pronto.