As time comes and goes we become hopeless in many aspects of our lives.
We see years that have passed as huge boulders lying on our shoulders. They become restrictions that others or ourselves place within our mind frame or life.
Does it have to be this way?
NO, NO, and, another BIG NO!!!!!!!
Mid life is one of the greatest if not, the best time of our lives. We have so much to do and to see, with just a hint of the huge worry we bore on ourselves in our child rearing years.
One of the first things we need to do is let go. We have to let our children lead into the world and find their own path. For me this sometimes proves difficult being an overprotective mom, but there comes a time when no longer we can hang on to them as safety blankets. Talking from my experience, it’s harder because you need to give yourself a hard look about the “what am I going to do know” issue.
We live in a youth oriented culture. People searching aggressively to get the elixir of the eternal youth fountain, they’ll do anything and everything to recapture their youth as those forties and fifties come rolling in. Is it worth it? NO again!
Our youth is a long distance memory, that’s why we idealize it and want it back. Our mind has probably shut down all the pain that comes with being young. Many of us didn’t know who we were or where we were going in fact. We were in a path of discovery in all aspects of our lives. Questions and uncertainly plagued us every day and we weren’t sure where are lives were heading. To top it all, don’t forget our relationships. We didn’t have a clue if our High School or college sweetheart would be the one. We weren’t even sure if we would be lucky enough to find him or her.
Coming fast forward, in our late forties and fifties we know where we stand or at least should know by now.
We already know what happened with our youth sweethearts and even what happened with the nefarious “the one” along the way. We are strong and capable of knowing who we are and where we want to go. Don’t let others put you down. Life is incredible at this age if you don’t let others tell you how to live and move forward in a stage that should be much more better than anything else you’ve lived.
Now a days my fountain of eternal youth comes by just looking at my mom. She’s vibrant and gorgeous looking and when I look at her in her magnificent seventy-four, I kick myself and think,
“Wow, if Mom is looking that great I have so much to look forward too.”
Now for all the cry-babies out there if this is not true and you have a terrible looking mom, do your best to make sure you become a great looking mom to encourage your own children as they come along midlife.
Let’s embrace opportunity and life and recapture not our youth, but what we are today. Why think about how things were or how we were, but rejoice in what we are today.
This is time for new careers (hopefully the ones we dreamed about but, couldn’t pursue), new ways of thinking about money, sex, spirituality and everything that surrounds us. Call me crazy, but I’m enrolling in graduate school this next fall and I’m thrilled about it.
For instance, take a long look at your significant other (new or old) and get to know him or her all over again. Let passion grow in another dimension, let go of your preconceptions and enjoy everything they have to offer. You’ll be REAL surprised where this will take you!! I assure you that the thrill is much more than a roller coaster ride.
Use the same equation for the rest of the things you want to reconsider and you’re up to making some changes that will put butterflies in your stomach (as in excitement and thrill) as you face new experiences.
This time in our lives is about being true to ourselves, getting everything out of the box, learning to change and accept is just the first step.
So my dear friends hop on midlife like it was one of the best rides of your life and enjoy the ride because that it was life is all about.