Being honest and straightforward isn’t socially acceptable anymore. Now you’re probably saying that’s bull!!!! I’m honest and straightforward, what’s wrong with you?
Well to be honest to the truth, when someone let’s say maybe a preacher, or your boss, or a friend (not someone you casually know, like for example a Facebook friend type of thing), but maybe the ones you truly don’t want to mess up your relationship kind of thing, or your partner, girlfriend/boyfriend, fiancée, and or wife/husband is saying or doing something you really don’t like, how would you respond to it?
Honesty can backfire and blow right in your face.
Once I had a friend (like the ones I described before), someone I valued and cared for deeply. I chose to be honest with her over a serious issue and basically we couldn’t get over it. Our relationship collapsed, and to the day and probably till the day I die I’ll regret it.
In her case, there was no way honesty could be breached. I was the one who would face the consequences of honesty.
Basically if we want our relationships up and going we can’t do the honesty thing as often as we would like. I’ve known a few couples that when having to talk about some issues that were jeopardizing their relationships, one chose to be completely honest and wham, their relationship became history.
Don’t even go there if you need to address work related issues with your boss, it’s not even worth it. You’ll end up on the wrong side of him/her and probably get a bad yearly evaluation or worst get fired.
The days when you could work things out facing them are long gone.
As icing to the cake, the trend would be to talk it over with another person. Wow, is that bad or what?
Things become even more complicated when that same person, talks to you about it. What do you do? Can you call or meet the person and have a straightforward and honest conversation? Or is that out of the question? Or is it easier to post a comment in your Facebook status that almost nobody knows what it means except you.
I call it the riddle game. You have to try to figure out what’s going on with the person, but really don’t know what it is or who it’s about.
Probably that’s why our relationships have gone sour more too often, is it time for us to recapture them through the healthy channels of honesty. I think it is, do you?